The number #1 reason people don’t do the things they want to do, accomplish the goals they think about accomplishing or become the person they dream of becoming is FEAR.
Fear has the ability to literally paralyzes you if you let it.
I don’t think there is one person who at some point in time hasn’t experienced the sometimes overwhelming emotion. There are studies that show when people are faced with doing something unfamiliar, new or different they often times will experience fear. So many people will actually remain the same and choose not to do something new simply because they are scared of the unknown. This, in my opinion, is the #1 reason many people will experience death without knowing what it truly feels like to live.
It’s the reason why people who are meant to do huge things in the world never do. Why people who are destined to speak never take the stage, or those who are destined to express themselves through the written word never write a book, it’s the real reason many people will never even try to start their own business and get caught up working the 40/40 plan working 40 hours a week for 40 years while dying a slow internal death because they are unhappy with their realities but never muster up the courage to explore change.
In order to deal with fear or anything else in life for that matter we first need to understand what it is.
According to Wikipedia – Fear is a feeling induced by perceived danger or threat, that causes a change in metabolic and organ functions and ultimately a change in behavior, inducing the urge to flee, hide, or freeze from the perceived traumatic events.
Now I want you all to understand something, at our core, we are mammals which means we have animal instinct. That animal instinct is supposed to keep us from intentionally putting ourselves in imminent danger but in addition to our innate animal instinct, we also have the ability to process thought. So unlike other animals who will immediately pay attention to that gut instinct and act accordingly we humans tend to process the gut feelings that we experience.
This can be both good and bad. Because you are wired to feel fear it can protect you when it needs to but it can also hold us back from doing the things that may scare you but pose no threat at all.
Let me say this. There are many people who will tell you that fear is not real. They say things like fear is simply false evidence appearing real or fear is just happiness or excitement turned upside down, but personally, I don’t agree with this.
Fear Is Real! I know this because just like you I experience it. Fear is a real emotion but if you understand what it is and why we experience it, you will be better able to navigate situations that scare you.
The only way to manage your fear is to do the things that scare you. Action Is The Cure. The more you do the thing you are afraid of the less you’ll be afraid.
When I’m super nervous or afraid to do something I walk myself through a very simple three-step-process to help me process and manage my thoughts and emotions.I want you to do it too:
Here are the three steps I use, I want you to think about the one thing that scare you most and use the process too:
Begin by acknowledging and confronting your fear, see it for what it is. Most likely just something you’re unfamiliar with doing.
Secondly, ask yourself what the worst case scenario would be if you were to attempt the thing you were afraid of, write it down on paper so you can get the fears out of your mind and onto and see them for what they really are. Writing it down really helps to minimize overthinking and the size of the fear that will always seem larger in your mind.
Last but not least, come to the realization that if you were to attempt the thing that you fear you would be no worse off than you are right now, in all you will become a better person because you were able to take a few steps in a positive direction.
By the end of this process, you should realize you’re probably worried about minor things hopefully they won’t seem so major. You will hopefully feel relieved and realize that whatever you’re afraid of isn’t so bad after all.
Tonight I’ll be hosting a Free Webinar where I’ll be discussing the topic of fear and how to deal with it even more as well as some key strategies that if implemented, could take you from full-time employee to the full-time entrepreneur.
If you haven’t done so already, register today and join us.
I hope you found these suggestions about managing your fears useful. Let me know if you did by leaving your thoughts in the comments below, as always I’d love to hear from you!